• Uncategorized

    Dear gentlemen in the kiz scene

    Over the years, I have met so many amazing people in the kizomba scene, across the globe. As a conscious Swedish independent strong woman and feminist, it’s been a challenge from time to time to find myself in a culture that is very much focused on male leadership, male role models, men in the spotlight, and so on and so forth. However I learned to take up space, to hang out with good people, and I feel happy to be able to stand with both feet on the ground, being myself fully, expressing what I love.  I want to add to the important discussion going on about sexual abuse. And…

  • Dance

    Dating a dancer?

    It’s so easy to get swept away by kizomba, entering the amazing dance bubble, and bit by bit, get soaked into the environment and vibe. Being a dedicated dancer means you spend a lot of your time on the dance floor, traveling to festivals, making new dance friends, so how about also dating a dancer? I mean, it seems like a dream to have a partner who shares your passion. However, love in the dance scene is not always uncomplicated. I have been thinking about a few things to consider when dating a dancer. Is it love that you’re feeling?The first thing to be aware of is the illusion. Especially…

  • How do you live your life?,  Inspiration

    The place to heal

    It’s humid and scorching hot. The yellow Thai morning light paints the yoga shala beautifully. Birds singing outside. The teacher has wild brown hair and an animal vibe. Sophia. Big eyes and confident moves. Wild, free and close to nature. Instantly she gets my full attention. And I trust her. As we are moving through 90 minutes of yoga. After challenging liberating hip openers, jumps, breathwork and twists, we enter the last pose. Relaxing in Savasana. Accompanied by Devi Prayer. I close my eyes and notice I can finally breathe deeper. My breath is long, even and smooth. There is no interruption, nothing in the way, it’s just a soft…

  • Relationships and dating

    The Orgasmic Queen – reflections from the sexiest course

    It’s 2019. And I’m invited to join an online course called The Orgasmic Queen.  Because women’s sexuality is still not fully free. Women’s genitals are hidden. Women’s pleasure is secondary. This is a positive course aiming to emphasise and show that there is so much potential, so much to discover, so much to learn – towards a stage, where women express their desires fully, get to know their bodies, love their bodies, set boundaries. Men also of for that sake, but this course is for ladies. Online? I was a bit sceptical how this intimate topic could be shared in a webinar form, however it turns out to be great.…

  • Relationships and dating

    Just because it’s true, doesn’t mean it’s right

    And you are not staying because you want drama. Or because you don’t know your worth. You are accepting this situation because something tells you have faith, everything happens the way it should. And because you are a good ass person who understands that he is going through a tough time and that pressure doesn’t help your love. And because this man rocks your fucking world. The way he talks, walks, smiles. The fact that he questions your beliefs, listens to your advice, lets you rest in his arms while kissing your forehead. And no words are necessary. Because,  you both know… You know what you have is strong. Because it’s…

  • How do you live your life?

    To carry your own heart

    You say you’re fine As you’re falling apart in front of me You say you’re good But you can’t hide the truth I see you I see everything You have no idea My dearest friend Dare to rest in your imperfections Remember to embrace uncertainty Know that you are worthy While your world is shaking While it hurts And you haven’t figured it all out yet Because it’s OK You say you’re afraid of being lonely Of showing all of you And you’re not even sure of who that is You’re afraid of messing up Of letting love in You say you can’t give what they want But perhaps the…

  • How do you live your life?,  Inspiration

    Who cares about hoes?

    I could choose not to. I could choose to sigh and move one. Ignore. Forget. Think that oh well, it’s a man’s world. But I choose not to. When a man uses the word hoes in his insta story. When a man spreads his legs next to me on the bus so I get less space. Then I choose to question and I choose to spread back. This is not because I want to cause a scene or be mean, or because I’m an angry feminist. I am a happy feminist with hopes. We all have a responsibility to form the future we want. Equality doesn’t come like that. And…

  • Amsterdam,  How do you live your life?

    A Swede in Amsterdam – my first 6 months

    Dear readers, sorry for the poor updates. It’s like I’m writing in my head but it doesn’t come out. Here’s an update. Believe it or not, it’s almost 6 months since I left Gothenburg for Amsterdam. With an open mind and heart, and without a timeframe. A move that was led by my intuition and my longing for something different. Scared and excited. Prepared yet not prepared at all, didn’t even have a place to live. Things have happened – and changed, as usual. Within these months I have taken steps in my integration process, not necessarily to become Dutch, but to be able to live in this country, as…

  • Dance

    Sexy dancer

    Let’s talk about how female dancers are described and portrayed in written communication. Can we please use a little less words like “sexy”, “beautiful”, “young” to attribute female dancers and female related dance moves. I see a lot of this communication in workshop schedules and video descriptions online, and would like us to stop for a while and reflect. It might not seem like a big deal, however words are powerful and an essence in culture, so if women are always described as sexy, what happens with our talent, technique and innovative contribution to expressions and styles in the scene? This is not about whether kizomba or urban kiz is sensual or sexual, but…

  • How do you live your life?

    Why I moved to Amsterdam

    People ask if I moved to Amsterdam because of a new job. Well, I do have a new job here but the will to make this move came from something else originally, before that opportunity came up. The reason can be described more as love or longing, a desire to be in a more international, creative, vibrant and inspiring place, which in this case means being true to myself. For the longest time I’ve had a sort of vision board (à la word nerds, hence text only) with different cities where I could see myself. All with pros and cons. Easy to get a job, already have contacts, high rents, good kizomba, bad…