• Relationships and dating

    The Orgasmic Queen – reflections from the sexiest course

    It’s 2019. And I’m invited to join an online course called The Orgasmic Queen.  Because women’s sexuality is still not fully free. Women’s genitals are hidden. Women’s pleasure is secondary. This is a positive course aiming to emphasise and show that there is so much potential, so much to discover, so much to learn – towards a stage, where women express their desires fully, get to know their bodies, love their bodies, set boundaries. Men also of for that sake, but this course is for ladies. Online? I was a bit sceptical how this intimate topic could be shared in a webinar form, however it turns out to be great.…

  • Relationships and dating

    Just because it’s true, doesn’t mean it’s right

    And you are not staying because you want drama. Or because you don’t know your worth. You are accepting this situation because something tells you have faith, everything happens the way it should. And because you are a good ass person who understands that he is going through a tough time and that pressure doesn’t help your love. And because this man rocks your fucking world. The way he talks, walks, smiles. The fact that he questions your beliefs, listens to your advice, lets you rest in his arms while kissing your forehead. And no words are necessary. Because,  you both know… You know what you have is strong. Because it’s…

  • How do you live your life?

    To carry your own heart

    You say you’re fine As you’re falling apart in front of me You say you’re good But you can’t hide the truth I see you I see everything You have no idea My dearest friend Dare to rest in your imperfections Remember to embrace uncertainty Know that you are worthy While your world is shaking While it hurts And you haven’t figured it all out yet Because it’s OK You say you’re afraid of being lonely Of showing all of you And you’re not even sure of who that is You’re afraid of messing up Of letting love in You say you can’t give what they want But perhaps the…

  • How do you live your life?,  Inspiration

    Who cares about hoes?

    I could choose not to. I could choose to sigh and move one. Ignore. Forget. Think that oh well, it’s a man’s world. But I choose not to. When a man uses the word hoes in his insta story. When a man spreads his legs next to me on the bus so I get less space. Then I choose to question and I choose to spread back. This is not because I want to cause a scene or be mean, or because I’m an angry feminist. I am a happy feminist with hopes. We all have a responsibility to form the future we want. Equality doesn’t come like that. And…

  • Amsterdam,  How do you live your life?

    A Swede in Amsterdam – my first 6 months

    Dear readers, sorry for the poor updates. It’s like I’m writing in my head but it doesn’t come out. Here’s an update. Believe it or not, it’s almost 6 months since I left Gothenburg for Amsterdam. With an open mind and heart, and without a timeframe. A move that was led by my intuition and my longing for something different. Scared and excited. Prepared yet not prepared at all, didn’t even have a place to live. Things have happened – and changed, as usual. Within these months I have taken steps in my integration process, not necessarily to become Dutch, but to be able to live in this country, as…

  • Dance

    Sexy dancer

    Let’s talk about how female dancers are described and portrayed in written communication. Can we please use a little less words like “sexy”, “beautiful”, “young” to attribute female dancers and female related dance moves. I see a lot of this communication in workshop schedules and video descriptions online, and would like us to stop for a while and reflect. It might not seem like a big deal, however words are powerful and an essence in culture, so if women are always described as sexy, what happens with our talent, technique and innovative contribution to expressions and styles in the scene? This is not about whether kizomba or urban kiz is sensual or sexual, but…

  • How do you live your life?

    Why I moved to Amsterdam

    People ask if I moved to Amsterdam because of a new job. Well, I do have a new job here but the will to make this move came from something else originally, before that opportunity came up. The reason can be described more as love or longing, a desire to be in a more international, creative, vibrant and inspiring place, which in this case means being true to myself. For the longest time I’ve had a sort of vision board (à la word nerds, hence text only) with different cities where I could see myself. All with pros and cons. Easy to get a job, already have contacts, high rents, good kizomba, bad…

  • Relationships and dating

    Sluta tjata – dejta med respekt

    Hans ögon går lite i kors och jag gissar att det är alkoholen. För han luktar inte fresh.  “I like you”, säger han och flinar berusat.  Han står lite för nära när han inleder sin lama övertalningskampanj. Jag (och många andra tjejer säkerligen) har hört den förr. Men hur kommer det sig att han på riktigt tror att det ska funka. Och det här med tjat, inte bara hopplöst osexigt utan också ett jävligt medeltida grepp, eller? Tror han att om han tjatar tillräckligt så kommer jag nog tända på honom, orgasmerna kommer flöda och jag kommer plötsligt tycka att han är en jäkligt skön snubbe? Nej, nej, och åter…

  • Dance

    Being a sensitive person in the kizomba scene

    That moment on the dance floor when you see your old dance crush. Who you for a while also thought was your love. When you cannot really let go of the memories, and the fact that you used to dance for hours. And when you end up leaving the party without having danced, barely said hi. And you wonder, how can it be. These dramatic changes. From being so close and connected to seemingly strangers. You blame yourself for not being more pushy. For being all naive thinking he would search for you on the dance floor, when these days clearly he has a huge fan club. In those moments,…

  • Relationships and dating

    Infidelity

    Something cruel and unforgivable or a natural part of being human? Something in between, or perhaps both? Nevertheless it’s a provocative topic. Because it questions and ruins the notion of exclusiveness and the concept of conventional relationships. It’s one of our biggest fears, to be cheated on and not being able to trust our partner. This post is not about justifying it, nor to doom it, it’s about the things around it and how we can deal with it.  So, being exclusive tends to be the norm in relationships but are we really meant for that? People cheat all the time, hurt each other, lie to each other. It’s like we’re…